tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9193910827847323491.post8894763506839453455..comments2019-03-16T01:15:14.647-04:00Comments on RE: Think: Wives & Husbands - Part IIUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9193910827847323491.post-78329503911132637082009-01-22T13:40:00.000-05:002009-01-22T13:40:00.000-05:00First, let me say that I am very sorry to hear of ...First, let me say that I am very sorry to hear of your situation. It saddens me. <BR/><BR/>I have three thoughts, the first two may be of no comfort, but their important principals to understand. The third, I hope, becomes you hope.<BR/><BR/>First, as bad as you marriage may seem at the moment, you will not find satisfaction in the long run by returning to your husband the same disrespect he gives you. Although you feel justified and greatly tempted to do so, if you retailiate, matters will certainly not improve. <BR/><BR/>Second, building on the first comment, I want to remind you of the fact that the first goal of a marriage covenant is not to please the spouses. It is to glorify God. If you seek first your pleasure and well-being in marriage, you would have left your husband long ago. Realize that it is your faithfulness even during his unfaithfulness that shows the world how we as Christians are different. God is faithful to us even as we are unfaithful to Him. If it weren't for His mercy, we would have no covenant with God, and if it weren't for your mercy you would have no covenant with your husband. Similiarly, you must remember that it is not God's design for marriage that is flawed, it is your husband's sin nature. The root of your frustration is not in God's design for the covenant, it is in the failure of your fellow covenant keeper. Again, however, consider our position before God and take heart that you are honoring Him for God's glory... not yours, not your husband's.<BR/><BR/>Finally, the only encouragement that I can think to offer is the promise found in Scripture. 1 Peter 3:2 is not a formula, but rather it is wisdom from the Lord, like a proverb. What this should mean to you is (as I aluded to in my first point) that the highest likelihood you have of winning your husband over is to honor him beyond what he could understand, more than he would believe. It's not easy. It's not fast. Some wives wait their entire lives with no fruit. But it is what gives us hope.<BR/><BR/>As an aside, it doesn't sound like from your post that your husband is abusive or dangering you, so my responses did not cater with that assumption. However, I will tell you that if he is, you are of no obligation to remain in an unsafe situation. I do not endorse divorce, but separation is warranted in extreme circumstances.Nick Carterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05389903464638309338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9193910827847323491.post-1535285698623877872009-01-22T09:47:00.000-05:002009-01-22T09:47:00.000-05:00I've tried being a good wife to my husband, but he...I've tried being a good wife to my husband, but he doesn't appreciate me nor does he think women are of any value when it comes to ministry work. We are good as long as we do as we are told and nothing more. As long as we cook, clean, and have an occasional roll in the hay. I hate my life as it is and I don't feel in my heart to honor my husband because of the horrible way he treats me. He's flirtatous - in my face, very deceitful and cunning and he is the most eloquent liar I have known in my life. Although he says he's a man of God, his actions speak something very different when we are not around people. I'm at a lost as to what to think and sometimes I find myself questioning God as to why He would allow such a hypocrital person to lead anything. I suppose that sounds very bitter, but after 7 years of brow-beatings and put downs and name calling, how can I respect my husband?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com